Praise for the HeartState Method
People feel the HeartState method working inside the first hour.
You do not have to take Andrea's word for that. These are some of our favorites from the messages that come in after the classes, the Society calls and the live events. People name the spiral they stopped, the belief they finally found, the marriage they kept, and the tears that came after years of not being able to cry.
Nobody on this page was asked to write, paid to write, or given anything for writing. Every word below is theirs.
"This has been the best class I have ever been to, thank you."
Previ
"Thank you for your work. Your advice is spot on. I've been doing this work for quite a while now and it truly does work!"
Diana Kimmel
"One moment can throw off my whole day. These practices help me regroup so I stop spiraling."
Society member
"My life is constantly changing by reading and practicing your resets. I've had a tough past six months, and your emails are the first I read every morning. You're a lifesaver."
Lisa Lee
The live classes
What people write during and after the weekly class.
Andrea teaches the same method live every week. These came from the class chat and from her inbox.
It really changed the way I felt.
"I first logged in on my phone at 7:00 Eastern and started watching. Then I logged in on my laptop and watched the rest of it. It was a masterpiece. It really changed the way I felt."
Mark
I forget to say that to myself.
"When you said 'you are a miracle', it felt magical. Theoretically I know that each one of us are unique and special but I forget to say that to myself."
Rashmi
I feel inspired and invigorated every time.
"Andrea has such amazing infectious energy, and I feel inspired and invigorated every time I'm able to attend one of her sessions."
Aliza Parker
The exercises feel releasing and reviving.
"I feel grateful for this time together, thank you for sharing and doing the exercises that feel so releasing and reviving to the good feelings inside."
Stacy May
The HeartState Society
What members write while they are doing the practice.
Andrea runs the Society room live every week and members do the activations together in between. Four months of it comes with Release, Receive, Rise.
It feels like a space where I can just be.
"There was no pressure. I didn't feel like I had to participate, share, or prove anything. I could simply take what resonated with me and leave the rest. That felt very different from a lot of online spaces. I'm noticing that I'm more willing to sit with my thoughts and emotions instead of immediately trying to fix them or push them away. I'm learning to give myself more grace, and to trust that I don't have to have everything figured out right now."
Ana-Maria
I have mapped out 3 action steps I will take today.
"I just finished today's ritual and something clicked. A few weeks ago, I uncovered a core limiting belief. Today, I went further. I reflected on the real consequences that belief has had in my life, and I imagined what things would look like if I no longer held onto it. It feels incredible to feel that shift. I've mapped out 3 action steps I'll take today to show up differently in ways that match who I'm becoming!"
Society member
It identified the foundational principles that continually hold me back.
"Good morning, thank you for this morning's ritual. Wow, super helpful in identifying the foundational principles that continually hold me back."
Society member
I can now see possibilities that were always there.
"Very grateful for all of the prompts and examples. All of this is very new to me and I never had any kind of rituals for myself. It's mind blowing for me to now see all of the possibilities that were always there but couldn't see."
Society member
I don't feel so alone.
"I'm really appreciating having a place to share about this stuff. So often we do this work in solitude and it's helping to have a place to share insights and get feedback. I don't feel so alone."
Society member
It is one thing to journal about it. It is another to own it in front of people.
"Thanks for the support. Seems to make it more real when it's shared. It's one thing to journal about it, it's totally different to own it in front of people committed to growth. Thanks for showing up for us!"
Society member
It can be felt that we are all in a safe space.
"And it actually comes across the screen and can be felt that we are all in a safe space. Thank you for creating this and sharing your passion and talent with the world."
Society member
I can let the feelings go through me.
"Just wanted to thank you for being here because you are holding this space for me to be able to let the feelings go through me."
Society member
Letters and messages
The messages people sat down and wrote out in full.
These arrived by email and direct message. Nobody was asked for them.
It was exactly what I needed, exactly when I needed it.
"Andrea, you've been a real guiding light for me for a while now. As a fellow recovering double-A type perfectionist, I've appreciated your candor from the moment I came across one of your interviews. The recent opportunity to sit with you was one of those synchronistic moments that was a profound blessing, exactly what I needed, exactly when I needed it."
Event attendee
I am not usually able to cry, and the tears came.
"I found it very meaningful and a confirmation that I am on the right path. What especially sealed the deal for me was when you asked me about what my husband would say about me. I am not usually able to cry, and it was extremely surprising for me to feel tears rolling down my cheeks. It was an extraordinary moment that I don't even have words to describe."
Event attendee
I unlocked a layer I could not see.
"Proud for being open and surprised that I have started crying. Feels like I have unlocked a layer that I couldn't see that needed to come out and be loved."
Event attendee
I experienced great healing benefit from them.
"I was able to participate in your live sessions and experienced great healing benefit from them. Thank you again for a profoundly transformative, heartfelt experience."
Heather
The one where you don't know how to rest without feeling unsafe.
"The raw journey you share with others is so very helpful. The 'go go go' one where you don't know how to rest without feeling unsafe. The one about your relationship with your mom, finally accepting that what she gave was all she could give. I could go on and on."
Audience member
They reach me at a very special time in my life.
"I love the content of your posts, the messages you pass to people, and the vulnerability in sharing yourself on camera. Your messages are reaching me at a very special time in my life, with early menopause and career changes, so they feel very personal and impactful."
Audience member
The live events
What people write after a live event.
Andrea has run live events and multi-day programs for years, and she teaches the method herself in every one of them.
I was blown away and joined VIP access.
"Went in expecting some good stuff. Was instead blown away and joined VIP access."
Event attendee
An excellent foundation I now use with my own clients.
"An excellent foundation for me to use as I move and grow forward. Helpful when working with clients as a drugless practitioner."
Practitioner and event attendee
"I'm saying this as a fellow writer, and as someone who did 14 years of therapy. A lot of people could benefit by reading or hearing this. Lots of insights. Lots of excellent advice."
Verified reader, Radical Acceptance
Where the method came from
Andrea built HeartState out of her own way back and more than 200 conversations with the people who study this for a living.
She interviewed over 200 researchers and teachers in neuroscience, healing, psychology and manifestation while she was working out why thinking had never fixed her own doubt. That is what the method is made of, and it is why the practices below do something a book on its own cannot.
The book
Andrea put the first version of this method into print.
Radical Acceptance is where the work went public. Therapists, husbands and readers who had already done years of their own work all found the same thing in it.
★★★★★
Possibly the most user-friendly relationship book I've read
"I'm a psychotherapist and couples counselor. I loved this book. I'm a book addict and this is possibly the most user-friendly book I've come across. I particularly like that she uses herself and her relationship to demonstrate her ideas. It helped me apply the ideas to myself and my partner, rather than simply intellectualize the concepts to offer to my clients."
Psychotherapist and couples counselor, verified purchase
★★★★★
Change your relationships forever
"This book changed my life and all of my relationships. It most likely saved my marriage."
Verified purchase
★★★★★
Simple message, masterful delivery, liberating results
"How does one do it? How do you radically accept your partner and stand up for yourself and your needs as well? Andrea walks us through it beautifully and leaves us feeling challenged and inspired. It really has made such a difference in my marriage. My husband AND our couples counselor definitely notice the difference. I've also found myself applying the same concept well beyond my partner, to my children, my own parents and sibling and friends, even to myself. It's actually very liberating."
Verified purchase
★★★★★
A book for every husband to read
"This book should be required reading for every married man. Most of us are never taught how to love our whole spouse. Rather, we look to change the parts of our spouse that we find hard to accept. Radical Acceptance teaches us how to grow our relationship with compassion and helps us to not get stuck in the day to day traps that ultimately harm us and our partner."
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★★★★★
Honest, genuine, helpful
"The author's warmth, humor and genial spirit is evident in every page. She's not speaking at you in this book, she's speaking from experience, and is walking with you to accept both yourself and those around you. Without lecturing, she offers sound, practical and relatable strategies. This is a beautifully-written, easy-to-read book from someone who's clearly walked the walk."
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★★★★★
I highly recommend everyone read this book
"Truly a life changing book. I highly recommend everyone read this book, regardless of relationship status. The author opens up and shares her experience in a relatable way. I recommended this to my ex husband, who couldn't put it down. It allowed us both to talk about what went wrong, what we could have done differently, and how we could set ourselves up for success in our next relationships."
Verified purchase
The full method
Release, Receive, Rise is everything Andrea teaches, in one program.
Three core sessions with Andrea, HeartState Essentials, and four months of weekly live Society calls where the practice becomes your baseline.
See what is inside Release, Receive, Rise